The Village People: Aging in Place

I’m one of the village people.  No, I don’t sing “Y-M-C-A” and I definitely don’t dress like a cowboy.  Rather, I’m part of a new movement afoot to create virtual retirement villages in communities across the country to help people successfully age in place.

The first village was established at Beacon Hill in Boston ( in 2001, and since, over 50 have appeared across the US.  For an annual fee ranging from $25 to $600, 50-year-olds and older can join a network of neighbors that work together on a largely volunteer basis to allow residents to engage more fully in their communities.  Akin to a concierge service, each village is a non-profit that provides exercise classes, wellness seminars, transportation, household repairs, trips to museums and concerts, and more, mostly operating with grants, membership fees, and volunteers. Vendors such as plumbers or electricians, dog walkers and  home care providers are carefully screened and their work  is monitored by the local village for quality and safety.

“Villages are one way people can lead the life they want to live,” Mimi Castaldi, AARP vice president for volunteer engagement, told USA Today.  “They’ve caught the imagination of people.”  According to the article, baby boomers who are caring for their aging parents are driving the movement, looking for an alternative to retirement or nursing homes.  Peace of mind and the opportunity to have a parent age in place safely are the goals.

“I don’t think it’s the answer,” says the AARP’s Castaldi, but one in a string of good options.

“We think Boomers will change retirement,” she says. “They’re getting to the age where they’re thinking, ‘How do I want it to be for me when I get older?’ ”

Visit the Village to Village Network to learn more about the villages currently operating in the US.

On November 11th and 12th, I’ll be heading to Philadelphia for a conference on the village movement and I’ll share what I learn.

Do you know anyone who is part of a village today? At what age or under what circumstances might it make sense to join a village?

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Clutter Clean-Up

“For Where Your Treasure Is, There Your Heart Will Be Also”

My mother was a neat-nik. When she turned 70, she spent the year purging her files and storing only her and my father’s important documents in a safe deposit box and in a filing cabinet at home. Years later, when I needed to quickly find my father’s discharge papers from the military service or a copy of the cemetery deed, I knew exactly where to find them.  As I look around my own office, I feel sorry for my children if something were to suddenly happen to me.

Are your parents thinking about downsizing or perhaps a move into assisted living or a retirement community?  Do they intend to remain in their home but could benefit from de-cluttering and organizing? It often will seem daunting and almost impossible to clear out decades of memories. Recently, I met Laura Moore, founder of Clutter Clarity.  As a professional organizer and coach, Laura helps people de-clutter and organize their homes, schedules, and lives. She teaches people how to think about it all so the physical work of holding on and letting go is liberating instead of overwhelming.  Laura makes a very necessary and sensible distinction between clutter and treasures, helping me to see that the plastic wall plaque that hung above my mother’s kitchen sink for decades is one of my treasures, more valuable to me than an antique chandelier collecting dust in the attic. Laura’s blog and tweets are full of unique, helpful ideas about how to change our relationship to our belongings and get organized.  She offers 21 ClutterClarity Tips on her website.  My top five favorites are:

  • Is It or Is It Not Clutter? Ask Yourself: Do I love it now? (not like a lot); Do I use it now? (within a year); Does it comfortably fit into my home? (if not, what can I let go of to make room?); Does it fit into my current lifestyle? (family, work, friends, hobbies, etc.).
  • Get a Timer: Pick a project you can finish in 15, 30, or 60 minutes-a drawer, a corner, or a box.
  • Buy a Shredder: Set it up at waist level so you don’t have to bend over so much. Shred for a short period of time so you don’t get bored.
  • Find a Clutter-Clearing Companion: Instead of working with someone you live with, find a good friend who will not judge you.
  • Pick a Non-Profit: Choose organizations that do work that you care about. Sometimes they’ll even pick up your stuff for you.

I personally follow all of these tips, although occasionally I do get carried away.  Just ask my teenage daughter; I shredded her driving permit and she had to wait three weeks to replace it.  Donating to non-profits that will use items no longer needed or worn by your family is very satisfying and may be what helps your parents part with some of their treasures.

Consider passing Laura’s wisdom on to others.  If you have trouble knowing what personal financial, legal, and medical documents to save or to shred, I recommend her 21 page publication “Paper Clarity at a Glance.”  I keep a copy at home as a reference guide for my own paperwork.  As always, I do not have any financial arrangement with Laura or her business; I simply think the services of a professional organizer can be invaluable.

How do you and your parents deal with clutter?

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Don’t Give Up on Me!

I wrote Don’t Give Up on Me! from an outline of the 50 things I wish I had known before entering the last decade of my parents’ lives.  It’s a fast-paced, show-and-tell book that brings you ringside during those very crazy years, helping you to understand not just the what but also the how of providing support.  How do you wrestle the checkbook or the keys away from mom?  How should you and your parents navigate the medical system to get the care they need?  What happens if one shows signs of dementia?  How can grandchildren be supportive? What legal documents really matter? What influences longevity? Is the doctor always right?

Today, there are thousands of websites and dozens of books that offer information, but Don’t Give Up On Me! is a great place to start, the place to find the initial and critical pieces of information on caring for your parents.

I hope you will read my book and join forces with me to share your knowledge with others.  All profits will be used to fund programs that serve our elders and support their caregivers or care partners.

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